Keeping it together.

I think now is the perfect time to start writing this blog as I’m sitting here with this killer headache from the kids being terrible since the sun came up. All the screaming, fighting, tattling, spills, and back talks to this mother are just too much for me today. Let’s not forget about the dirty house that needs to be cleaned and supper that has to be cooked. One of my favorite things to do when I feel a “meltdown” coming on is to go to the spa and get my nails done. It is nice, quiet and serene which is the complete opposite of my house. I can usually leave there with enough rejuvenation to finish off my crazy day. Well, today is one of those days. As soon as Alan enters the premises I can’t leave fast enough. I get there to find out my nail guy is gone on vacation. Can you believe that? I mean how rude of him! I settled for someone else and was enjoying my pampering while rethinking my day and what I could have done differently at home and how terrible of a mom I am (I know, I know, Woe is me) when it happened. The door flung open and there stood a rambunctious two year old with his mother. I thought surely not…surely..i mean…this is a spa..she’s not going to stay. BUT NO she sat her happy tale in a chair and let her son run around acting a fool while she got her nails done. Oh no she didn’t!! Isn’t this what I just got away from? It should be illegal to take small kids into places like that. I could tell she was being that “fake” mom that we’ve been at some point using her calm, assertive voice with him. “Honey, please come sit down.” “Sweetie use your inside voice.” Of course he wasn’t listening to a thing she said. As I watched her I couldn’t tell if she was just stupid or desperate and I came to the conclusion that she was a little of both. I was just that mom dealing with her crazy kids a few moments earlier. It took all this happening to realize that all us moms are just one kid scream away from a break down. We hide it pretty well most days, but men have no idea how hard we have it. We as moms have to look good, get the kids off to school and home from school then do homework, sporting events, cook supper, clean house, manage the money, worry about birthday parties, work, do laundry and  do all of that with a smile on our face and be able to hold it together. Come on moms let’s be real, how many of you struggle daily to hold it together? How many of you feel like you’re on the verge of a nervous breakdown some days? How many of you cry at night after the kids go to bed because you feel like a bad mom? I’ll be honest with you I feel all those ways on most days. I did a little poll on facebook for fun to see what moms liked to do after a long hard day. I enjoyed reading all the different answers. To the moms that always put your kids first, take that bubble bath, watch your favorite tv show, have a girls night out, listen to your favorite music and don’t feel bad about it. It will make you a better mom for doing it. Our daughters need to see us taking time for ourselves so when they grow up to be moms they will do the same for themselves. So…“Heres to good women, may we know them, may we be them, my we raise them.”